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Low self-esteem is the rock upon which many relationships crash and sink. When a person has low self-esteem they have a warped view of themselves and make the mistake of thinking that everyone else holds that same view of them.
This causes them to view others in a distorted manner, as well. If they believe that others look down on them, they have less interest in or respect for them. Even if they are loved they will not accept that love unless it is offered to them in a certain manner. They cannot see or accept the love that is given, because they do not see themselves as lovable.
Sometimes if not most of the times these persons have a history or come from a verbally, sexual or physically abusive background. Sometimes they may have come from a loving home but have been picked on at school and have believed the lies others have told them about themselves, leaving scars of insecurity and inferiority.
When people have made themselves believe that they are unloved at home, they are going to be looking for that love somewhere else and possibly in all the wrong places. They keep hoping that someone else can make them feel loved, never accepting that the problem is more within them than in their current relationship.
They have no idea that their low self-esteem can keep them from seeing and accepting real love when they have it already. They keep looking for the next “feel good” experience – that adrenaline of “added attention”. Unfortunately, like drugs, they will just keep needing more and more experiences, yet never be content or satisfied.
One of the things that they don’t seem to understand is that, in enduring relationships, you do not live on a continual “high.” There are ups and downs that go with the stresses of daily living that have to be worked through, or just endured until they pass. Those times can make the individual with low self-esteem feel undervalued and unloved.
Because the “high” is not there, this reinforces the feelings of inadequacy in the person with low self-esteem, and they assume that their partner sees them as inadequate, as well. Or they may throw their feelings onto the another person and say that they are inadequate to meet the emotional needs or standards of their spouse …and they would be right; cause no one person can continually fill that void.
One of the unfortunate repercussions of living in relationship with someone with low self-esteem is the fact that the one who is cheated on may see it as their fault for not being able to fill all the voids in the other person’s life, and this may just have the potential to begin the cycle with yet another person, widening the negative effects of low self-esteem.
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