Getting your relationship back together – The practical way Pt.1

January 14, 2010 · 5 comments

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So you and your ex have decided to get back together and start things afresh.

That is great news!

However, remember that things cannot be the same as they were last time around.

If you want things to work out smoothly bring in positive changes into the relationship.

Both of you should agree to work towards bringing things back into order in the relationship. Unless both the partners are ready to make changes, your relationship will be doomed from the start.

A fresh start

Basically, you are beginning a new relationship with your ex. So renew your friendship and get to know each other from a brand new perspective. Think of all the special moments you spent together at the beginning of the relationship.

If you can renew the magic of those moments, you will be able to make positive changes in the present relationship.

As a part of the ‘fresh start’, you should be able to forgive each other for the mistakes of the past. Both of you should let go of the past mistakes and move forward without carrying the guilt and the resentments of the mistakes that occur.

Both you and your partner will also need to change the way you think about certain things. After all, you can’t bring in the same attitudes and beliefs into the relationship and expect that things will work out smoothly.

For instance, if you did not like the fact that your ex spoke to other women, you need to change that attitude. Jealously can never be a good thing for the relationship.

Listening and communicating

A major part of being able to make things work between the two of you will depend on the manner in which you communicate. You should be able to talk out the differences in a mature and effective manner. A non-communicative manner will usher in distance in your relationship.

Also remember to be careful about what you talk about. Don’t be rude and blunt. Put your point across in a thoughtful manner. Most often, it is not what you say but it’s the manner in which it is said that makes all the difference.

Before you speak, think of what you are saying and try to make out how your ex will react to what you have to say. If you are calm and understanding with what you have to say, you will make a lasting impact on your ex. However, if you are rude and hurtful, you will end up making things worse for your relationship.

See you in the next post for the conclusion of Getting Your Relationship Back Together – The Practical Way Pt.2

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