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Just under three years of marriage, my union suddenly seemed to have taken a nosedive for the worse. My marriage was rife with pockets of issues, which I did not know how to solve. Things got so bad between my wife and I, that I began to contemplate a divorce.
However, at the same time, I knew that if I make an earnest effort to work upon our marriage, things may just work out for the better.
It took me to realize that when a marriage faces problems, it is usually due to a number of factors coming together. Hence, I began to identify the issues that were bugging our relationship.
Sometimes even the smallest of the situations can take up very large proportions and you can heavily affect your relationship – so you can’t afford to overlook anything.
Some of the common issues that often strain a marriage are money, lack of communication, children and so on. In my case, lack of communication and issues related to money were major factors that led to the problems in our marriage.
Like many other marriages, my spouse and I came back late from work, and never really got the time to talk to each other. We were too tired and exhausted to actually have meaningful conversations, or talk about other stuffs.
This is why, when problems started to crop into the marriage, we still did not have the time to talk about it and solve the matter. Our relationship had further worsened and I was left with a choice of saving my marriage or faced the pain and dreaded agony that accompanies a divorce.
One day, I told my spouse that we needed to talk – I told her that we needed to spend more time together and we needed to share our feelings and what was chewing away this union.
Consequently, we changed our schedule a bit, so that we could have our breakfast together daily and then go out in the same car. This gave us a lot of time together, and we made full use of the time, updating each other about everything that’s going on.
Not surprisingly, things started to get better in no time. If you are facing a similar situation in your marriage, I wish to emphasized that ‘dependable’ communication is a potent tool to make things work out between the two of you.
Apart from this, we also had issues related to money. I like to save our hard earned money, so that we can use it on a rainy day. But my wife seems to believe in the live-for-now theory and likes to spend everything for present pleasures. This often creates resentment between us.
I am sure; you have faced a somewhat similar situation in your marriage. After all, people are not alike, and everyone has a different philosophy about how money should be spent.
If you and your spouse have a conflicting view on this issue, all you can do is talk – talk and communicate. You need to work out a solution that is acceptable to both. Once you come to a consensus about the financial issues, you will find that things in your relationship will automatically take a turn for the better.
I have a friend who faced a similar phase in his marriage because he and his wife could not agree upon the manner in which they should raise their children. An example of this, would be ever so often she would be extremely passive when it came to raring the children – favoring one over the other, while he stood in contrast to her beliefs.
However, they decided to talk things through and met each other halfway. They decided that they would have to do what is best for their children, instead of letting their personal prejudices come in the way. If you have a similar disagreement with your partner, talk things through.
I have now realized that good communication, and not just good communication – dependable communication is the key to having a successful relationship. If we can talk to each other and save our marriage, what else do we need?
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